Four years ago, inspired by a great post from Joshua Becker of Becoming Minimalist on “Expanding Your Don’t Want List,” I wrote down what I didn’t want. The core message then, and now, is the importance of cultivating contentment with what you already have.
It’s fitting to revisit this as we head into the holiday season—a time often characterized by frantic buying and consumer excess. The “Don’t Want List” is a powerful tool. It’s a statement of priorities, a clear line drawn against the clutter and complication that often sneak into our lives. It’s an act of intentional living.
This isn’t about deprivation; it’s about protection. It’s protecting my time, my space, my energy, and my peace. Where my previous list focused on large items and basic clutter, my focus this year has shifted to the more subtle clutter and complicated consumption habits.
Here is my entirely new list of boundaries—the things I am continuing to happily say “No” to.
My Intentional “Don’t Want List”
- I don’t want decor items purely meant to “fill up a shelf.” If it doesn’t have a distinct use, deep meaning, or genuine beauty, it’s just visual noise. I’m prioritizing empty space and allowing my home to breathe.
- I don’t want single-use gadgets or highly specialized kitchen tools. If an item only serves one very narrow purpose (e.g., a specific fruit slicer, an egg separator, etc.), it wastes valuable drawer space. I prefer versatile tools that can handle multiple tasks. Simple, multi-functional tools are what you will find in my kitchen.
- I don’t want items personalized with my name or initials. While a kind gesture, personalization makes items difficult to re-gift, donate, or rehome if they no longer serve me. I choose flexibility and ease of decluttering over novelty.
- I don’t want to chase the newest technology. My current phone, computer, and smartwatch perform all the tasks I need perfectly well. I’m refusing to participate in the expensive, energy-wasting cycle of “upgrade urgency.”
- I don’t want bulk purchases of non-perishables that take up massive storage space. Buying fifty rolls of toilet paper to save a few dollars now just creates a storage headache. I prefer to buy what I need, when I need it, and keep my closets clear. A less cluttered closet is a reward.
- I don’t want clothes that require specific pairings or feel complicated. Outfits should be simple to assemble and interchangeable. I reject any piece that adds decision fatigue to my morning routine.
- I don’t want branded merchandise or novelty items. I want items for their quality and utility, not because they promote a logo, movie, or passing trend. My home is not an advertisement.
- I don’t want appointments, classes, or obligations that start before 8:00 AM. I am fiercely protecting my morning routine for quiet reflection and a gentle start to the day. My time is my most valuable asset.
This list is a gentle yet firm boundary I set, especially during a time of year when we feel the most pressure to acquire and give. The time I save not shopping for, managing, cleaning, or organizing these things is time I can spend with family and enjoying the season.
What’s on your “Don’t Want List” this year? What are you saying “No” to so you can say a bigger “Yes” to peace and presence?
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Thank you for sharing your do not want list with keeping your emphasis on want you want.
This is a great idea to have a “do not want list”!
What I find difficult with people who keep things is the inability to think beyond the now. Their mind set is so strong. Does it have a use now? Or is it a space taker? If there is no use but may be some day then why is it taking up space now so that what you do need now is relegated to somewhere underneath? Simple just like your posts. But, there is always the but.
This is a very thoughtful post. I have two people close to me that I can’t say frustrate me but puzzle me with their thinking and maybe frustrate a little. Yet I would like to just accept them as they are but sitting anywhere in their proximity is not easy – I personally struggle to breathe surrounded by so much, by things. Your posts have helped let go of how I feel and concentrate of where they are in life. I am still working on this. Keep up the great work.
I’m happy to hear that you are still enjoying my posts! Thanks for reading and commenting. I appreciate you!