Inheriting a loved one’s belongings can be a bittersweet experience. While it brings back cherished memories, it also leaves you facing a mountain of stuff. If you are in a situation where you have boxes or maybe even a room or house full of inherited items, know that it possible to get through it. Here’s a guide to help you navigate this emotional and logistical hurdle:
1. Take it One Step at a Time
Inheriting a house full of items can be overwhelming. Many times these items get boxed up and set aside because of the dread and anxiety felt even thinking about the process. Acknowledge your feelings and allow yourself time to grieve before diving in. Instead of looking at the whole pile as a project, start small, with just one box (or one corner) at a time or see how much you can sort in 30 minutes.
2. Create a Sorting System
Dedicate a central sorting area and establish categories like “keep,” “donate,” “sell,” and “discard.” Be ruthless but honest: will you truly use this item, or is it just taking up space? If you get caught up on a item create a “revisit” pile for so you can give yourself a little time before making a decision. Make sure to only use this pile when absolutely necessary and as a last resort. Be sure to make decisions at the end of each session or set yourself a realistic deadline.
3. Tackle the Sentimentality Trap
Sentimental items are the trickiest. Here are some tips:
- Focus on stories, not stuff: Can you keep a photo or letter that evokes a memory instead of a bulky object?
- Digitize memories: Take photos or scans of documents, photos, or other irreplaceable items.
- Break up sets: Consider keeping just a serving bowl from your grandmothers dish set instead of the whole 12 piece setting.
4. Don’t Be Afraid to Let Go
Letting go can be tough, but remember, you’re not getting rid of the memory, just the physical object. Consider donating to charities aligned with the deceased’s interests, or hold a giveaway for friends and family.
5. Embrace New Beginnings
Once you’ve sorted all of the items that you want to get through for the session, complete the final step of taking care of all the piles you created. Decide where the “Keep” items will go and put them away. “Trash” and “Recycle” should be immediately taken to outside bins. “Donate” should be loaded into the car and “Sell” items should be listed online or taken to consignment shops within the week.
Remember, there’s no right or wrong way to handle inherited belongings. Take your time, prioritize memories over clutter, and create a space that honors your loved one while reflecting your own life.
Good blog and a reminder to be careful. I threw away some things I should have kept of my mother’s. It is so easy at the time to not think it through.
It’s always best to wait until you are in the right head space. Memories are always better than objects though so don’t beat yourself up!